Seven years ago, today, a judge signed the final divorce settlement to declare my marriage had ended. After almost a year of going through the process, we were officially divorced. I didn’t know it on that day but found out days later when I received a copy of the paperwork in the mail. There was no celebration (no divorce party…
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Making decisions, in general, is difficult during a divorce especially if you are married to a narcissistic, toxic, or abusive person. You’ve depended on someone else to make all your decisions and now you need to take hold of the reins, to make all your own decisions, all while facing his ammunition. Recently, I’ve seen a lot of posts on…
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I wish I would’ve thought of this idea sooner. Keeping track of all the legal documents, financial information, contempt of court documentation, visitations, and future court hearings is a lot to keep organized. My lawyer had handed me a manilla file folder with papers to fill out at our first appointment. I tried to keep everything in that folder, without…
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This is a great question I’ve seen and heard often, what should I wear to court? Usually, women are going for their first time, to finalize the divorce, or to fight the custody arrangements after divorce. Dressing to be taken seriously, to seem confident, and all-around collected is a must! Do not dress to impress your ex-husband or to gain…
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Recently, I kept running across a newly published book by Gary Thomas. He’s the author of many marriage books that caused more harm, in my marriage, than good – I don’t fault Mr. Thomas for that as any book can be distorted and used for evil purposes. After reading a few of his blog articles after my divorce, especially the…
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While married, like many Christian women, I bought into the idea that if I prayed hard enough and did all the right things, that my husband would have a miraculous change of “heart”, repent of all his wrongdoings, and our marriage would be restored to God’s purpose for Christian marriages. During that time, I signed up for all the “save…
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I’ve been a parent since I was 18 years old. Beyond what I do now, writing and coaching women, I’ve never done anything but take care of my family. My entire adult life has revolved around my children. Even when I worked a full-time job, I took kids to daycare and/or picked them up, came home, cooked dinner, did dishes…
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