7 Phases of Divorce Recovery
The transformation from caterpillar to butterfly is a compelling analogy for the phases of major changes in life. Divorce is just such a time when we’re given the opportunity to choose to embrace this divorce season, allowing it to change us into something more beautiful than before. I’ve witnessed this metamorphosis many times. [Read more]
Betrayal Trauma: Three in a Marriage
Healthy relationships are based on love, trust, a mutual respect, and honor (high esteem for the other person and the commitment that was made). Marriage includes respect, care, and concern for all of the members of the immediate and extended family. And most importantly, a respect for the legacy each of us leaves behind – our kids are always watching and learning what is normal to pass down to their children.Love, honor, and respect builds trust in one another. There is security knowing that the parties are loyal to one another and always looking out for what is best for each other and the whole family, rather than just one person (self). [Read more]
Surviving an Unwanted Divorce
The bright spotlight on divorce has helped some of us feel a little less shame but there is still this lingering fact that no one tells us “how to survive” these days, weeks, and months after we’re faced with an unwanted divorce–no matter the reason. When your husband leaves, you’re served the dreaded papers, or you’re forced to escape the abuse… now what? [Read more]
10 Scripture Promises for the Divorced Woman
At night, when things are quiet and everything seems dark, it’s often hard to remember that God is working on our behalf. This is when the enemy likes to creep into our heads trying to feed us lies. He seems to own and feed in the darkness. Personally, I hear that we’ll be each of us leaves behind – our kids are always watching and learning what is normal to pass down to their children. I am reminded that repairs are needed, haircuts are wanted, holidays are coming, and so much more. I know the income is short and the bills are getting higher. I keep reminding myself to trust… but in the darkness of night, it’s hard to remember The Light. [Read more]
Becoming a Strong Woman
There are women who are not strong nor do they have any desire to be. There is nothing wrong with that. Everyone has their unique set of gifts given to them by God. Meekness can be a beautiful gift. But that has never been one that I can easily possess. There has always been an inner strength and gift of leadership just fighting to find it’s way out. [Read more]
Coping With Feeling Lonely After Divorce
One of the most common feelings we experience during and after divorce is loneliness. I hear from women all the time asking me, how to cope with feeling lonely after divorce. Sadly, most of them are dating and trying to remarry soon to fix that. My opinion is, I don’t think that will work. Alone or Lonely? Being alone does not equal being lonely. Being alone is a physical concept. You can physically move into another room where there are people to not be alone. While feeling lonely is an emotional concept. You can feel loneliness in a room full of people or when you’re alone, it just depends on how you’re feeling at that moment. Having the right kind of people in your life can... [Read more]