I believe the healing journey after divorce could be lifelong. Now, eight years since my divorce was finalized, I still have not arrived at a place that I feel everything is healed and restored. My innocence was lost. As I’ve shared before, I have scars from the lying, gaslighting, and manipulation that I experienced. I have a hard time just…
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Where was the support when I was going through my divorce? This is a very common question that I hear divorced women asking. No one brings casseroles or flowers after their husband leaves. No one thinks how helpful a food train or a few bags of groceries would be while you’re mourning the loss of your husband. I have yet…
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This question comes up a lot in comments on my YouTube channel, as well as in emails that I receive. These women are being accused of being the narcissist, especially after they share with their husband (or ex-husband) that he may have a narcissistic personality. Or when they start to assert boundaries for the very first time, something a narcissist…
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Throughout the years, I’ve shared how I was choosing to “parent” after divorce only with coaching clients in private. Now, that all my children are over 18, I’m free to share the purpose of “parallel parenting” and how I’ve made it work after my divorce. It is not easy to co-parent with someone who doesn’t know the meaning of co-parent….
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Does this person fit into my new life after divorce or would they have been a better fit for my old life? That is the question I find myself asking lately as I meet new people. This is also a question we examined in our book discussion group for my newest book, Your Restoration Journey: Rediscovering Your Faith & Yourself…
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Last week, I wrote about our anger and the underlying feelings that cause it. Today, I want to talk about the anger of others. The anger that we take responsibility for or take personally. Then, we spend the rest of the day analyzing what we did wrong, what we could’ve done or said differently, or just feeling really bad about…
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I don’t have an issue with anger. Anger is not the problem. What you do with it, is. Too many women stay stuck in that angry “phase” after abuse and divorce. Many other websites, although helpful to understand the toxic marriage you were in, keep you trapped in the cycle of anger, frustration, and resentment, which doesn’t heal the trauma…
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