I hear this question often. Did my narcissist ex-husband ever love me? And at one time I wondered the very same thing myself. I think it’s very normal to wonder; to ponder the relationship and if feelings were true for both parties – especially if we experienced a sudden unwarranted divorce. We know our own hearts but do we truly…
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I’ve been writing about divorce since Decemeber 2014 and coaching (or mentoring) women for at least the last four and a half years. The biggest struggle that I’ve helped women through is learning boundaries and how to deal with conflict – even with people who refuse to resolve conflict. The main reason they want to deal with these issues is…
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Feeling guilt and having second thoughts during and after divorce is a big struggle that women deal with. Almost every email I receive has at least one sentence saying something about this topic and how hard it is to deal with. When the woman files, she often feels that she has done so too quickly or without good reason. What…
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The National Endowment for Financial Education (NEFE) reveals that financial infidelity can be just as significant among couples as emotional/sexual infidelity. (Source) **This is part 3 in a series about how to financially survive divorce. Read all of the posts.** What is Financial Infidelity? Plainly defined, it’s doing things with finances that you keep a secret from your partner. It…
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To get to your destination of Financial Freedom after divorce you need to go through the towns of Saving and Budgeting to get there. (Paraphrasing what Christina Lynn said.) This is part two of a three-part series about how to financially survive divorce. As a young adult, I met with a financial mentor after ruining my credit and getting threats from…
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In the last couple of months, I’ve gotten to know Christina Lynn, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, with Lynn Financial, LLC. I told her about the reader survey I did in early 2018 where readers shared they wanted financial help and advice to survive divorce. So today, we’re going to discuss how Christina financially survived divorce as well as how…
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Over the last couple of weeks, during a writing break, I was able to read through most of the 2000+ pages of the Christopher Watts (police investigation) discovery. If you don’t know who this is, Mr. Watts was cheating on his wife, Shanann, then proceeded to murder her, their unborn child and two daughters. I can only assume he did…
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Many believe that when there is an estrangement between a parent and a child, even an adult child, it must be the parent’s fault. But that’s not always the case! As I talked about last week, you should not deny your child visits with his/her father. But sadly, I’ve heard from a lot of women – at least once a…
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Sadly, keeping custody of your child after divorce is no longer a given in many countries. Women are facing the fact that an abuser and/or narcissist can win custody, with just a few lies, claiming he’s being denied parental rights, or with enough power and money. (That’s why I always suggest the book, “Splitting” to my clients who have this…
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The day I got married, I did not love myself. I thought I did, but I was just in love with the idea of being loved… while loving someone else, more than I loved myself. I assumed that was how it was supposed to be. Caught by the trap of not seeing that love bombing, because it’s so intense, is not…
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