You don’t have trust issues. And it bothers me when someone blames a person for not just blindly trusting, but instead, using discernment. It seems some people like to point out “trust issues” when in reality we’ve been dealing with people who have “truth issues!” They don’t tell the truth but still expect someone to trust them. And when someone…
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“No message… is a message.” – Unknown That is something I had to learn the hard way. Being ignored by someone who said all the right things you’d say to someone you wanted to spend the rest of your life with. But words… are not always enough. The lack of a response, for no good reason or without explanation, is…
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Before I married, twenty-plus years ago, there were only a few ways to meet a dating partner. The internet was still brand new, with only internet companies like AOL offering dating services. We resorted to the old-fashioned way of being set up on a blind date, meeting someone at work, or do you remember seeing ads in the local newspaper…
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My divorce was finalized in 2013. After working on healing, I met several men who were interested in dating me. Before you ask how I met them––several were met on dating apps, a couple live in my community, and one was by an introduction from a friend. Looking back now, I realize that all of them made me feel somewhat…
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A large majority of the people who read what I write are women who are divorcing or divorced after infidelity, abuse, and/or abandonment. Either during the divorce process or after it’s complete, they ask me about dating after divorce. As I’ve stated before (read this article to learn more) waiting to date and healing your heart is a very important…
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I believe the healing journey after divorce could be lifelong. Now, eight years since my divorce was finalized, I still have not arrived at a place where I feel everything is healed and restored. My innocence was lost. As I’ve shared before, I have scars from the lying, gaslighting, and manipulation that I experienced. I have a hard time just…
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Where was the support when I was going through my divorce? This is a very common question that I hear divorced women asking. No one brings casseroles or flowers after their husband leaves. No one thinks how helpful a food train or a few bags of groceries would be while you’re mourning the loss of your husband. I have yet…
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This question comes up a lot in comments on my YouTube channel, as well as in emails that I receive. These women are being accused of being the narcissist, especially after they share with their husband (or ex-husband) that he may have a narcissistic personality. Or when they start to assert boundaries for the very first time, something a narcissist…
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Throughout the years, I’ve shared how I was choosing to “parent” after divorce only with coaching clients in private. Now, that all my children are over 18, I’m free to share the purpose of “parallel parenting” and how I’ve made it work after my divorce. It is not easy to co-parent with someone who doesn’t know the meaning of co-parent….
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Does this person fit into my new life after divorce or would they have been a better fit for my old life? That is the question I find myself asking lately as I meet new people. This is also a question we examined in our book discussion group for my newest book, Your Restoration Journey: Rediscovering Your Faith & Yourself…
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