Last week, I wrote about our anger and the underlying feelings that cause it. Today, I want to talk about the anger of others. The anger that we take responsibility for or take personally. Then, we spend the rest of the day analyzing what we did wrong, what we could’ve done or said differently, or just feeling really bad about…
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I don’t have an issue with anger. Anger is not the problem. What you do with it, is. Too many women stay stuck in that angry “phase” after abuse and divorce. Many other websites, although helpful to understand the toxic marriage you were in, keep you trapped in the cycle of anger, frustration, and resentment, which doesn’t heal the trauma…
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Last week I wrote about being blamed. I’ve written about emotionally and physically untangling from your ex-husband, as well as walking away from toxic people. But I’ve yet to talk about a very important topic of breaking free from the manipulation of a manipulator. This is something I’ve had to work through in the seven years since my divorce was…
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I’ve always been blamed for the actions of others. It goes back as far as I can remember. Growing up and while married everything was always my fault. Someone’s anger; someone’s bad day. I must have done something to cause it. They either outwardly said it was my fault or I felt that it was. I was told I was…
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Each week, for the last year or more, I receive several emails from ladies who describe their current life of uncertainty. They recount all the dreadful circumstances that they are facing––the husband leaving and seeing other women, lack of income, bills going unpaid, having to share or release the children to him and the other woman, dealing with the lies…
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Before the pandemic stopped our country and our court system, the legal divorce process took many months to a year (or more depending on financials and custody issues) to be finalized. Now, I can only imagine how hard and frustrating this must be for you to wonder when it’s all going to be over with. And the waiting to plan…
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During and for many years after my divorce, financially surviving just meant trying to put food on the table and keeping a roof over our heads; many times working three jobs. As I’ve shared in the past, there were many months that there was more month than there was income. But slowly over the years, my financial situation has improved….
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During the trial of my divorce, I attended a church service where the pastor prayed over my young son and myself. He prayed over us for protection and providence and then moved on to someone else. Then, he came back saying that he felt led to give me a message from God. Without even knowing my story or everything I…
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Seven years ago, today, a judge signed the final divorce settlement to declare my marriage had ended. After almost a year of going through the process, we were officially divorced. I didn’t know it on that day but found out days later when I received a copy of the paperwork in the mail. There was no celebration (no divorce party…
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Making decisions, in general, is difficult during a divorce especially if you are married to a narcissistic, toxic, or abusive person. You’ve depended on someone else to make all your decisions and now you need to take hold of the reins, to make all your own decisions, all while facing his ammunition. Recently, I’ve seen a lot of posts on…
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