If only I had a dollar for each time someone said to me, “Just move on with your life!” Often times it was said in a demeaning way – like somehow we should not grieve something like a divorce. Honestly, I think some people just do not want to see any pain or grief, so they say those things to shut…
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It’s not conceited or prideful at all to say, that I (a woman) deserve to be treated better. For a long time, I bought into the lie that I didn’t. But also, I was being told that I was being treated well (meaning I drove a new car, had a home, and other material possessions that showed “love”) and that…
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For many years of my life, I was so starved for love that I opened myself up to being abused by people who really did not love me. I heard their words and believed them. It wasn’t until someone told me to use the verses in 1 Corinthians 13, replacing “Love” with that person’s name that I finally understood the…
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We owe our children – the most vulnerable citizens in any society – a life free from violence and fear. – Nelson Mandela I grew up in a home with a lot of yelling. Things were constantly tense and my body was constantly feeling the consequences of the environment in which I was living. Inside I dealt with migraine headaches…
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If you’ve been reading my blog for more than just today for the first time, then you know I end every post with the phrase, “Many days growing and learning in Him.” It’s not just a nice little sentiment. It has a meaning and a purpose… for you and for me. Interesting is how it has flowed through my metamorphosis from “married…
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A friend and I recently sat down to catch up at a local coffee shop. We went through our divorces around the same time so we’ve been on this journey to healing together. Often times encouraging each other along the way. Although our circumstances may look a little different at times, we’ve done similar learning and emotional healing in the…
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You want to thrive after divorce. But we can’t do this alone. If you’re like me, your past (or current life) is filled with people that didn’t support you, nor did they allow you to be everything God created you to be. That’s why it’s important to find healthy relationships after divorce. In this new chapter of your life, now is…
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Divorced woman and children face many losses in a divorce. I can dwell on the losses all day long. But I think it’s also important to try to find the positives in any given situation. So, I’d like to write about one of the gains that can come from divorce. One of the good things that can be learned by…
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Year two after my divorce, one of my goals in healing, was to learn to be more authentic and a strong woman. Emotionally healthy people are authentic. I wanted to be that! Fearlessly authentic, actually. I knew it would be hard work to learn this new way of living, but I really wanted to change. So I set my goal to do…
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In my book, You Can Survive Divorce, I talk about how the story of Joseph’s life, as told in the book of Genesis, was the one story that I held so tightly to during my divorce, and even now years after. For many reasons I love Joseph’s life story… and God’s History. It’s still so relevant today… even to those who are…
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