When you look in the mirror, what do you see? The person you were when you were married? Do you see… and hear… “Divorced?” “Flawed?” “Failure?” “Unable to ‘keep’ your husband?” “Unloved!?!“ “Unworthy of love?” “Worthless?!” Before I send you into a downward tailspin into depression, with my words, I’ll stop there. I am sure you have no trouble…
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In July of 1994, I had a cesarean section to remove my first child who wanted to come butt first. That was my first major surgery done in an operating room. I had no idea how much pain I’d be in after the spinal block wore off. I should have listened when they offered me prescription pain medication but I…
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I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that, that first year after my divorce, I was very angry. In my state, a divorce is processed fairly fast compared to what I hear from ladies in other states. From the discovery day, separation, the filing of papers, and then the final day, everything was finalized and we were divorced in about one…
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Divorce is one of the hardest things women survive through. I write a lot about that. I’ve walked that path both alone and with others. I shared my story. But I’d like to take a short detour to share how to thrive after divorce. The next posts over the next few months will be on this subject. I want to help…
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I don’t know about you but I like to see how things are going to go before they happen. I want to plan out my future, decide all the details way before they happen, and then start planning it all out. I have a hard time just being still… and breathing while waiting for God. Unfortunately, I don’t have the…
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If you’ve done something so much that it doesn’t excite you anymore but just leaves you tired, consider yourself jaded. If someone says you look a little jaded, it just means that you look tired. Jaded means dulled or tired from too much of something. The word can also mean cynical because of bad experiences. (Source) Cynical meaning: believing that…
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We all make mistakes! We often learn from our mistakes and some of us, learn from the mistakes of others, as well. Often mistakes are our tripping over roadblocks that halt our emotional healing, keep us stuck, making us feel worse about our situation. Some roadblocks often make us feel like we have no choices or no way out of…
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The transformation from caterpillar to butterfly is a compelling analogy for the phases of major changes in life. Divorce is just such a time when we’re given the opportunity to choose to embrace this divorce season, allowing it to change us into something more beautiful than before. I’ve witnessed this metamorphosis many times. The recovery and healing after divorce can…
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Divorce is NOT contagious! That would have to be divorce Myth #1… divorce is passed from one person to another by being close to someone who is divorced. False! No one wants to go through a divorce. Many Christians try to divorce-proof their marriage. Have you seen Pinterest lately? Or is that just my feed? Furthermore, most divorced women (or at…
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Grace carried me here and by grace, I’ll carry on. – Unknown Ask any longtime divorced Christian woman how she made it through her divorce, she’ll probably tell you… that by the grace of God… and one day at a time she somehow made it through those first rough days (or years for some) after divorce. That’s exactly how I…
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