Husbands are walking away from their homes.
Almost weekly I hear about another family that has been torn apart by sin. Pure evil sin. Destruction. Devastation. I hear about new widows and orphans. People you would never believe it could happen to them. Then it happens. No one seems exempt.
Life is so unsure at times. Divorce seems to be happening all around us. The enemy is tempting men (yes, and women too) with addictions, abuse, and adultery, and they are falling for it.
Husbands are walking out… and never looking back. Not even thinking about the pain or hurt that they cause. With no concern for the sins, they are committing.
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.” – Hebrews 13:4 NLT
When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God. – Galations 5:19-21 NLT
But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself. – Proverbs 6:32 NLT
Sadly it happened to me.
Late 2012 or early 2013, I realized that there were many things out of place in our home. Lots of lies. Deception. Lots of uncertainty. Things were turned upside down… and I felt crazy. I was being told that I was “too emotional” and “crazy” like my mother. Everything was my fault. Or at least I felt like the scapegoat for the blame.
I mentioned I felt I might be being abused. And that was met with further rage and gaslighting (manipulation to cause confusion).
I could not longer stand the emotional roller coaster that had become the “normal.” There was a darkness in our home. Things were clearly broken. I felt it. The kids felt it. They were scared. I was scared. We slept behind a locked closed bedroom door at night.
But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers. – 1 Timothy 5:8 NLT
Finally, I asked him to leave. The covenant had already been broken. The kids and I were visiting the food pantry once a month, barely surviving, while our bank statements showed meals out, that we never saw. Abuse was becoming apparent. Financial, emotional… and more.
I placed my faith in God’s hands. I had to trust that God would work this all out for our good… somehow.
When people walk out… God steps in.
Almost instantly, I started to feel the Light of peace move back in. I knew God was on our side. He would not let us down. He was now providing for us and protecting us. Although hard at times I didn’t allow fear consume me.
Throughout this trial… and it was a tough one… God had to show me that He is faithful to take great care of us. He was proving His loving care for His precious children. It was a huge lesson in trust and faith. I finally was starting to pay attention.
God wants our faith to be strong. Our dependence on Him, and only Him, to be secure. Sometimes, He allows these bad things to happen – to those He loves the most – so that we always know His love and care.
We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in His love. God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them. – 1 John 4:16 NLT
And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows. – Luke 12:7 NTL [My fav!]
My divorce was final in December of 2013. I prayed for a miracle. My kids prayed. The church prayed. But in the end… God did answer our prayers… and performed a miracle. Just not how we expected it!
The answer came in the form of joy, peace, patience, gentleness, and self-control that now inhabits our home. Not perfect, but now it’s encouraged. The new normal is healing… to be emotionally healthy.
And God has worked it all out. I can entrust my future… every part of it to Him… the One at the head of our home. He walks in when everyone else walks out. He wants you to seek Him.
Trust in Him… for He cares for you! (1 Peter 5:7)
Many days growing and learning in Him,
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