There is a lot of misinformation about forgiveness being spread around, especially in Christian circles that can hurt women who’ve been through an unwanted divorce. It’s very easy to take one or two verses from the Bible and throw them in someone’s face, saying they’re unforgiving. “Forgive, just as God has forgiven you!” That would be easy if we were…
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People with goals succeed because they know where they’re going. – Earl Nightingale I talk a lot about how this time, during and after your divorce, being a healing journey. It often feels like a foreign territory and many Christian women are beat down, hurting, and lost at the very beginning, unaware of their new surroundings. The common thing I…
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Because when you go through, this death-valley-like experience we call divorce, you can choose one of a couple paths. Staying the same is really not an option. Especially if you want deep heart and soul healing. Life does not end after divorce. Sometimes, it’s a new beginning… full of changes. God calls you back to Him. God knows our hearts, ladies. He…
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We’re embarking on the hardest time of the year for those who are going through a marriage separation or have recently been through a divorce. Everywhere we turn we’re reminded that our family used to be a unit of love and support, yet now we’re alone or just feel that way. Our first Thanksgiving dinner was with friends at a…
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Last week I shared how I felt I was shunned by a church I had been attending during my divorce. Whether true or not, I felt I was being blamed for giving up on my marriage when I had fought hard to hold it together for so very long. And still, after all that time spent in prayer, my marriage failed. I…
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Some divorced women have a supportive church family who comes alongside them (victims of abuse and/or divorce because of adultery) during, and especially after divorce, with love, concern, and compassion. I’m very happy for them when I hear ladies say that this is what they’re experiencing. But this is not the norm. And it’s not even close to what I’ve…
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We are not necessarily doubting that God will do the best for us; we are wondering how painful the best will turn out to be. – C.S. Lewis, Letters of C.S. Lewis I was not one of those people who left her marriage the same way she got into it, partying. There was no celebration on that final day. No…
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I am going to let you in on a little secret. Journaling can help to heal you emotionally, after divorce. How do I know? Because I’ve seen it first hand. I first really started journaling in 2009. I had just kicked my husband out for infidelity. Through one whole hardbound journal, I spilled out all of the feelings and emotions……
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About a year ago, I started saving the long emails I receive from readers, in a hidden folder in my email service. Last I checked, I had over 500 emails. I absolutely love these emails! If I had time I’d email them all again one or two years from now to ask how much better their life is than it…
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For Domestic Violence Awareness Month (every October), I decided to focus mainly on abuse recovery here on the blog and to keep most of the abuse education over on my YouTube channel. (More videos, including my interview with Shannon Thomas, LCSW-S, author of Healing from Hidden Abuse, now available. Watch it now or save it for later.) One of the best…
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